Monday, March 19, 2012
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Book Review: I Am A Follower by Leonard Sweet
This book is a must read for all modern day Christians. In a time of most churches promoting a "leadership" agenda, it is refreshing to be reminded of our true call as followers. As someone who has spent years in a church practicing a leadership model, I experienced healing from reading this book. Sweet cleverly includes quotes from various people that support the books theme and inspire the reader.
I found the book easy to read and the subject matter, while explained thoroughly, was easy to comprehend. I would challenge any one to read this book and not have their views of how we do "church" challenged. Thanks to Sweet's insight I now view church differently and examine my priorities against those of the New Testament church. If you are planted in a leadership focused community, I highly recommend reading I Am A Follower in order to maintain a healthy balance in your Christian walk.
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I found the book easy to read and the subject matter, while explained thoroughly, was easy to comprehend. I would challenge any one to read this book and not have their views of how we do "church" challenged. Thanks to Sweet's insight I now view church differently and examine my priorities against those of the New Testament church. If you are planted in a leadership focused community, I highly recommend reading I Am A Follower in order to maintain a healthy balance in your Christian walk.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com
Friday, March 16, 2012
No Escape
What is your escape? I am sure everyone has something that when things in life get difficult, we use as our mental getaway. Sometimes it can be behavior our activities that are harmful to us. This is why people become drug addicts, alcoholics, and promiscuous. Not all escapes are as drastic. It could be watching our favorite soap opera, spending hours at the gym, or the time we spend on social media. There are many things we can use as our escape that seem harmless on the surface level. They can even be things that are healthy for us such as exercising, but when used as an escape can become harmful. Most of our escapes are not harmful to our bodies, but harmful to our emotions, our soul, and our relationships. Just ask any wife of a sports crazed husband who reminds her of his right to relax and watch the game (every game) after a hard day at work.
This morning I've been examining the things in my life that I often use as an escape. It could be an escape from family drama or simply an escape for the realities of daily life as a single mom. No matter what, I know these things exist in my life. What God is reminding me during the times when I want to run away from it all, is that He is my escape. He wants to be everything I need through every storm and trial of life. Not only the storms, but also during the calm. Maybe things in your life aren't necessarily chaotic. It could just be the routine of daily life has become too....well, routine. I have days of looking at my life and wondering if it is all it's supposed to be. I know my call at this time in life is to be a mother to my girls. Honestly though, there are days I don't want to do it. There are days I forget who I am. All I see is who I am when I'm in the role someone else expects of me. In the journey of being what other people need, I can forget who I have been created to be by God.
I wonder how many people are truly living the life they have chosen for themselves. I know this may seem like a bizarre statement, but let me explain. If you went to college, why did you go and why did you study your chosen field? Did you go because it was what was expected or because it was truly what you felt in your heart to do? I have talked to many people who are married and when I asked them why they got married, their response has been because they had dated for a certain amount of time, so it was just expected and the next logical step. I've heard so many women state that they didn't really want to get married, but it was expected. You grow up, go to college, get married, and have babies. There you have every fairy tale wrapped up in one sentence. This is the story line we are told all through life. However, even if we find ourselves "living the dream," we can feel heavy and burdened. We know there is something more.
When I want to escape, there is a scripture God speaks over me.
""Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30
God wants us to come to Him when we are worn down by life. The weight we carry does not belong to us. Jesus was and is peace. He wants us to learn from Him so we can be as gentle and humble as Himself. His rest is not just a physical one, but one that penetrates all the way into our souls. As we learn from Him, we learn to become the people we were created to be and not just the role society or our families expect of us. I've come to learn that usually what God asks of me is not what the world would consider logical! Jesus rarely did anything that made sense to the people of His time.
If you are feeling heavy today, I pray you turn to Jesus rather than the things of this world. Spend time asking God to reveal the things in your life you have been using as your escape rather than turning to Him. When we turn to Him instead, the effects are far reaching way beyond ourselves. You will see a difference not only in yourself, but in your family and friendships.
This morning I've been examining the things in my life that I often use as an escape. It could be an escape from family drama or simply an escape for the realities of daily life as a single mom. No matter what, I know these things exist in my life. What God is reminding me during the times when I want to run away from it all, is that He is my escape. He wants to be everything I need through every storm and trial of life. Not only the storms, but also during the calm. Maybe things in your life aren't necessarily chaotic. It could just be the routine of daily life has become too....well, routine. I have days of looking at my life and wondering if it is all it's supposed to be. I know my call at this time in life is to be a mother to my girls. Honestly though, there are days I don't want to do it. There are days I forget who I am. All I see is who I am when I'm in the role someone else expects of me. In the journey of being what other people need, I can forget who I have been created to be by God.
I wonder how many people are truly living the life they have chosen for themselves. I know this may seem like a bizarre statement, but let me explain. If you went to college, why did you go and why did you study your chosen field? Did you go because it was what was expected or because it was truly what you felt in your heart to do? I have talked to many people who are married and when I asked them why they got married, their response has been because they had dated for a certain amount of time, so it was just expected and the next logical step. I've heard so many women state that they didn't really want to get married, but it was expected. You grow up, go to college, get married, and have babies. There you have every fairy tale wrapped up in one sentence. This is the story line we are told all through life. However, even if we find ourselves "living the dream," we can feel heavy and burdened. We know there is something more.
When I want to escape, there is a scripture God speaks over me.
""Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30
God wants us to come to Him when we are worn down by life. The weight we carry does not belong to us. Jesus was and is peace. He wants us to learn from Him so we can be as gentle and humble as Himself. His rest is not just a physical one, but one that penetrates all the way into our souls. As we learn from Him, we learn to become the people we were created to be and not just the role society or our families expect of us. I've come to learn that usually what God asks of me is not what the world would consider logical! Jesus rarely did anything that made sense to the people of His time.
If you are feeling heavy today, I pray you turn to Jesus rather than the things of this world. Spend time asking God to reveal the things in your life you have been using as your escape rather than turning to Him. When we turn to Him instead, the effects are far reaching way beyond ourselves. You will see a difference not only in yourself, but in your family and friendships.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Not So Friendly Friendships
Yesterday as I was looking at my Facebook page, I noticed the number of "friends" I have. It was at 1,275 people. How in the WORLD do I know that many people? I began thinking about that number and then comparing it with the number of people I interact with on a fairly consistent basis. There are some that post things I enjoy reading and who comment on my page occasionally. Then there are many others who rarely post anything and some that do, yet never really interact on my page. I realized that it is time to go through this list of "friends" and remove those who have no interaction. This process is not as easy as it would seem.
In order to remove someone from your page, you have to go to their page first. I have yet to find a way to bring up my friends list and quickly unfriend them. This process means looking at each person's page, but also leads me to reflect on how I know them, why are they on my page in the first place, and then decide if I want to keep them there. During this thought process yesterday an unexpected emotion hit me. Fear. What? Why am I afraid? I started worrying about if this person would be offended by me deleting them. Would they even notice? If it is someone who never interacts on my page, then they shouldn't be bothered by the removal, right? There are some people who never interact, but I enjoy reading their updates. However, many of them are also on Twitter and post the same things on that site. You would not believe the anxiety this decision was causing me!
Then I had to think about the people on my page that limit me in what I post. There have been times I have wanted to write a status or share something I've read, but have censored myself because of someone else's insecurities. More than once I have said something and then received a text or private message from someone because what they read, they perceived as being about them. The reality was that what I said was in no way directed at them and yet because of what was in their own hearts, they took it as a personal insult or accusation. Do I really need that much stress over something said on Facebook? I know it may sound crazy, but all of these things are the thoughts I had simply over removing someone from my Facebook!
And then I was reminded of this:
"When I am afraid, I will trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?" Psalm 56:3-4
Is there someone in your life that is controlling you simply through the fear of what they will think about you? What if they talk bad about you because you do what you feel led in your heart to do? What if they misinterpret your intentions and turn something good into something bad? I can tell you that I have been there. When people make assumptions about you based on their own insecurities, it is not something we can take personally. As long as we know, and God knows our hearts, there is no need to fear the opinion of man (or woman).
Is there a relationship in your life that has an element of fear? If so, my prayer for you today is to experience the peace from God to let the relationship end. It is not an easy process. Oftentimes we love someone who is not good for us. We can love someone that takes more out of us than they contribute to our lives. It is also possible to care about people who in essence abuse us. Remember, God is the one who is worthy of our trust. Seek Him in all things and He will guide you to make the right decision for you and your household.
***I received this comment after posting this on my FB and thought it added to the thought so I wanted to share it here:
This morning in my quiet time, God spoke so clearly to my heart and said, "delete the spectators." I then looked up the word spectator, and it is defined as: 1.a person who looks on or watches; onlooker; observer. 2. a person who is present... at and views a spectacle, display, or the like. Spectators are very rarely involved with what is going on, or ever bring anything to the table. If you ever watch spectators at a sporting event; they usually sit and talk back and forth, and even whisper about the things that go wrong in the game. When I see and hear the word spectator, the word 'speculate' also comes to mind. We know that speculation is not truth or a fact, it is mainly assumption. Do you have any spectators in your life, or even or your social networking sites? Are they ever actively involved in with what's going on with you? This is definitely something to consider, because it may be time to do some deleting. Blessings! -Cherine
In order to remove someone from your page, you have to go to their page first. I have yet to find a way to bring up my friends list and quickly unfriend them. This process means looking at each person's page, but also leads me to reflect on how I know them, why are they on my page in the first place, and then decide if I want to keep them there. During this thought process yesterday an unexpected emotion hit me. Fear. What? Why am I afraid? I started worrying about if this person would be offended by me deleting them. Would they even notice? If it is someone who never interacts on my page, then they shouldn't be bothered by the removal, right? There are some people who never interact, but I enjoy reading their updates. However, many of them are also on Twitter and post the same things on that site. You would not believe the anxiety this decision was causing me!
Then I had to think about the people on my page that limit me in what I post. There have been times I have wanted to write a status or share something I've read, but have censored myself because of someone else's insecurities. More than once I have said something and then received a text or private message from someone because what they read, they perceived as being about them. The reality was that what I said was in no way directed at them and yet because of what was in their own hearts, they took it as a personal insult or accusation. Do I really need that much stress over something said on Facebook? I know it may sound crazy, but all of these things are the thoughts I had simply over removing someone from my Facebook!
And then I was reminded of this:
"When I am afraid, I will trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?" Psalm 56:3-4
Is there someone in your life that is controlling you simply through the fear of what they will think about you? What if they talk bad about you because you do what you feel led in your heart to do? What if they misinterpret your intentions and turn something good into something bad? I can tell you that I have been there. When people make assumptions about you based on their own insecurities, it is not something we can take personally. As long as we know, and God knows our hearts, there is no need to fear the opinion of man (or woman).
Is there a relationship in your life that has an element of fear? If so, my prayer for you today is to experience the peace from God to let the relationship end. It is not an easy process. Oftentimes we love someone who is not good for us. We can love someone that takes more out of us than they contribute to our lives. It is also possible to care about people who in essence abuse us. Remember, God is the one who is worthy of our trust. Seek Him in all things and He will guide you to make the right decision for you and your household.
***I received this comment after posting this on my FB and thought it added to the thought so I wanted to share it here:
This morning in my quiet time, God spoke so clearly to my heart and said, "delete the spectators." I then looked up the word spectator, and it is defined as: 1.a person who looks on or watches; onlooker; observer. 2. a person who is present... at and views a spectacle, display, or the like. Spectators are very rarely involved with what is going on, or ever bring anything to the table. If you ever watch spectators at a sporting event; they usually sit and talk back and forth, and even whisper about the things that go wrong in the game. When I see and hear the word spectator, the word 'speculate' also comes to mind. We know that speculation is not truth or a fact, it is mainly assumption. Do you have any spectators in your life, or even or your social networking sites? Are they ever actively involved in with what's going on with you? This is definitely something to consider, because it may be time to do some deleting. Blessings! -Cherine
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Disowned
There have been some things occurring in my life over the past few weeks that I have not shared with too many people. I think I've remained quiet about it because I'm still trying to process it all in my own mind. Yet, I'm struggling to make sense of it all. I have done a lot of wrong things in my life. There were things I have said and done that would warrant family disowning me. I will be the first to admit this is true. However, recently I have had family delete me from Facebook and in essence "delete" me from their lives. All because of not anything I have done, but for keeping a relationship with other family members they feel have hurt them. And there has been hurt. There have been wrongs committed. However, who among us has never sinned or caused emotional hurt to another at some point?
The greatest command in the Bible is to love God and then to love others. We are commanded to forgive or we will not be forgiven ourselves. This is not left open to interpretation. It is quite clear. Whether we want to admit it or not, we must forgive if we expect to be forgiven by God. It is easy to want to justify our anger and our society even supports our right to be vengeful. However, the manifestation of Christ's love in us is radical forgiveness. It's forgiving the unforgivable. It is only through the power of Christ that we will see this played out in our lives. If we claim to know Him, yet are unable to show love during the trying times in our relationships, then we may not know Him as much as we think we do. The fruit of a relationship with Christ is seen the greatest in times when we would be earthly justified in turning our back on a loved one. In actuality, if it is that easy to remove someone from your life, then perhaps true, Christ-like love was never had for them at all. Was it a relationship of obligation? Was it a relationship because of what they could do for you? Did you never really like them in the first place? These are all questions I've asked myself lately as I'm processing my "removal" from the lives of those I care about.
What God has and is revealing to me through this is that it is not about me at all. It's about the hurt in their lives. The anger and bitterness has built up inside of them so much that it not only spills onto the one they are angry towards, but it covers anyone associated with that person. Even those who are simply trying to do what God has commanded...show love and forgiveness. My heart breaks as I think of the family that has been removed as a result of one person's hurt. Nieces and nephews, in-laws, and even the in-laws family. My daughters have lost cousins because of this. One of the offenses that led to this situation happened over 30 years ago! That is a tremendous amount of time to live out of your hurt. The spirit of unforgiveness is an evil being. It traps us in the event that took place. Instead of being able to see all that has happened since the hurt, we live in that moment. We replay it in our minds so much that it's as if the event happened yesterday.
I know this is true because I lived there myself for a long time. It has only been during the last six months or so that God has begun to show me all the GOOD things that occurred around the same time as the major wound I experienced. He showed me I had a choice to make. I could either continue to live my life out of the wound, or I could let the wound heal and live out of the victory. I could throw away a lifetime relationship over one major offense (please know I'm not trying to downplay the severity of what happened), or forgive and value the remaining time I have with the person who caused the offense. This is a choice each of us have to make when hurt comes into our lives. Especially when it involves a family member. Oftentimes, our offense is not even because of what was done to us, but what was done to another loved one. We pick up pain that does not even belong to us. We want to vindicate and defend the one we perceive as being the one "wronged." This is a precarious place to stand. When we choose sides, we never know the full story. While the sins of one may be the one in the spotlight, we neglect to see all the skeletons piled in the closest of the other party.
Is there someone you have turned your back on that could really use a shoulder right now? Is there a family member or friend going through a difficult time that needs your support and encouragement? I will be the first to tell you, it could get messy. When the woman caught in adultery was brought to Jesus, they were ready to make it an ugly, bloody scene. Even here, only one guilty party was persecuted. Where was the man? Was it only adultery because she was married, not him? Oh, to know what Jesus wrote on the ground with his finger as the Pharisees were pressuring Him for a response! In His infinite wisdom, perhaps He began to list each of their sins. Maybe he was writing the names of each of them who had themselves been adulterous. I've found we often persecute those whose sin most resembles our own. After His response, He returned to writing on the ground. The older ones turned away first so maybe Jesus was listing all their transgressions. What if instead of always pointing our fingers at others, we began with examining our own sin. The reality is that in the process of turning out back on anyone in need, we are turning our back on Christ.
If you are the one feeling persecuted and condemned, remember Christ's words to this woman:
"Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” John 8:11
There is no condemnation in Jesus Christ. If you do not have a relationship with Him, you can start right now. It's about more than simply saying a prayer asking for His forgiveness. Ask His to reveal Himself to you. Ask Him for a physical manifestation of His love for you. Ask Him to heal your wounds. It's about what is in your heart. He loves you more than you can imagine and has a plan for your life that is greater than your hurts. The forgiveness you think could never be possible, is a reality in Him. Trust Him.
The greatest command in the Bible is to love God and then to love others. We are commanded to forgive or we will not be forgiven ourselves. This is not left open to interpretation. It is quite clear. Whether we want to admit it or not, we must forgive if we expect to be forgiven by God. It is easy to want to justify our anger and our society even supports our right to be vengeful. However, the manifestation of Christ's love in us is radical forgiveness. It's forgiving the unforgivable. It is only through the power of Christ that we will see this played out in our lives. If we claim to know Him, yet are unable to show love during the trying times in our relationships, then we may not know Him as much as we think we do. The fruit of a relationship with Christ is seen the greatest in times when we would be earthly justified in turning our back on a loved one. In actuality, if it is that easy to remove someone from your life, then perhaps true, Christ-like love was never had for them at all. Was it a relationship of obligation? Was it a relationship because of what they could do for you? Did you never really like them in the first place? These are all questions I've asked myself lately as I'm processing my "removal" from the lives of those I care about.
What God has and is revealing to me through this is that it is not about me at all. It's about the hurt in their lives. The anger and bitterness has built up inside of them so much that it not only spills onto the one they are angry towards, but it covers anyone associated with that person. Even those who are simply trying to do what God has commanded...show love and forgiveness. My heart breaks as I think of the family that has been removed as a result of one person's hurt. Nieces and nephews, in-laws, and even the in-laws family. My daughters have lost cousins because of this. One of the offenses that led to this situation happened over 30 years ago! That is a tremendous amount of time to live out of your hurt. The spirit of unforgiveness is an evil being. It traps us in the event that took place. Instead of being able to see all that has happened since the hurt, we live in that moment. We replay it in our minds so much that it's as if the event happened yesterday.
I know this is true because I lived there myself for a long time. It has only been during the last six months or so that God has begun to show me all the GOOD things that occurred around the same time as the major wound I experienced. He showed me I had a choice to make. I could either continue to live my life out of the wound, or I could let the wound heal and live out of the victory. I could throw away a lifetime relationship over one major offense (please know I'm not trying to downplay the severity of what happened), or forgive and value the remaining time I have with the person who caused the offense. This is a choice each of us have to make when hurt comes into our lives. Especially when it involves a family member. Oftentimes, our offense is not even because of what was done to us, but what was done to another loved one. We pick up pain that does not even belong to us. We want to vindicate and defend the one we perceive as being the one "wronged." This is a precarious place to stand. When we choose sides, we never know the full story. While the sins of one may be the one in the spotlight, we neglect to see all the skeletons piled in the closest of the other party.
Is there someone you have turned your back on that could really use a shoulder right now? Is there a family member or friend going through a difficult time that needs your support and encouragement? I will be the first to tell you, it could get messy. When the woman caught in adultery was brought to Jesus, they were ready to make it an ugly, bloody scene. Even here, only one guilty party was persecuted. Where was the man? Was it only adultery because she was married, not him? Oh, to know what Jesus wrote on the ground with his finger as the Pharisees were pressuring Him for a response! In His infinite wisdom, perhaps He began to list each of their sins. Maybe he was writing the names of each of them who had themselves been adulterous. I've found we often persecute those whose sin most resembles our own. After His response, He returned to writing on the ground. The older ones turned away first so maybe Jesus was listing all their transgressions. What if instead of always pointing our fingers at others, we began with examining our own sin. The reality is that in the process of turning out back on anyone in need, we are turning our back on Christ.
If you are the one feeling persecuted and condemned, remember Christ's words to this woman:
"Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” John 8:11
There is no condemnation in Jesus Christ. If you do not have a relationship with Him, you can start right now. It's about more than simply saying a prayer asking for His forgiveness. Ask His to reveal Himself to you. Ask Him for a physical manifestation of His love for you. Ask Him to heal your wounds. It's about what is in your heart. He loves you more than you can imagine and has a plan for your life that is greater than your hurts. The forgiveness you think could never be possible, is a reality in Him. Trust Him.
Friday, March 9, 2012
Finding James
Today I want to share a recap with you of my day yesterday. I pray you take the time to read even though it is a long post. In order for you to follow along, please watch this video, paying close attention to the last couple minutes featuring the interview with James (it starts around minute 3).
Invasion Charlotte Campaign Video from Starscape Media on Vimeo.
Amy is a friend of mine and I was meeting her for lunch uptown yesterday. She asked me if I would go with her in order to find James. Someone has offered to fly James to a treatment facility to help him beat his alcohol addiction. Of course I wanted to go with her! We decided to eat lunch before setting out on our mission. As we were eating, Amy received a text message from a friend saying he had just passed James and how he immediately recognized him from the video. This friend had no idea of Amy's plan to go find him! She asked the friend to go back to him and tell him that she was coming to talk to him.
We met up with the friend a short time later, but he had been unable to locate James. For the next three hours we all drove around the several block radius where James was last seen. As we began talking to other homeless people, it became evident that most every one knew James. We were told to check in several places. One lead came from the clerk at one of the gas stations where James frequents. He advised us of a building at the end of the street where many homeless gather. We ventured back there and a worker in the building told us of a path behind the building where we should look. The three of us walked back there in search of James. What we found was a mini campsite. It was obvious people "lived" there, but at this time nobody was home.
Another lead the worker in the building gave us was to check near the strip club. So we ventured towards the strip club. While on our way there we spoke with another homeless gentleman who pointed to an abandoned car wash across the street and told us it was where James "lived." We checked several other places before heading to the car wash. When we drove up there were two men in conversation. We introduced ourselves and they introduced themselves as Tommy and Tod (which is Dot spelled backwards as he explained to us). They were friends with James and informed us he had just left to go up the street to ask for money. We learned Tommy lived on the streets with his wife Sheila. Sheila soon joined us and we spent a while in conversation with them and praying with them. We did not share with them the reason we were looking for James. Within several minutes of our conversation Tommy shared that if he and his wife could enter an alcohol treatment center together, then they would go tomorrow if possible. Amy shared with them the work of her ministry and asked if she could work that out, would they seriously be willing to go. They both assured us they would. They let us know where their "home" is so we will know where to find them. I am believing God will work out a way for them to go to treatment together.
Sheila shared with me a little more of their story. They moved to Charlotte from the northeast because Tommy had been promised a job. When they got here, the job fell through. They had money at the time and a place to live, but their drug addiction quickly consumed the funds they had saved. They have been on the streets for about a year now. They each have children that are now grown. There is something that happens to you inside as you begin to have a real conversation with someone so "different" from you. You start to realize we are not all that different at all.
After talking with them we set out to find James. Sure enough, he was exactly where Tommy, Sheila, and Tod had told us he would be located. When we got out of the car, James was terrified. You could see the fear on his face. If you've ever approached a lost dog that wants help, but is afraid of your intentions, then you have seen the look in James' eyes. Amy approached him while the two of us stayed back a little. When she initially reminded him who she was, he said he did not remember. However, as we talked to him for a while he started talking about meeting her at the gas station. It slowly came back to him the conversation they had previously shared. We told him how we had been looking for him for hours and shared with him the places we had looked. When we told him about the place in the woods he got a bit angry and told us to NEVER go back there because there were dangerous people back there. I believe we were divinely protected as we searched for James because we never felt in any danger!
As they continued talking, my heart began breaking. Amy explained what was being offered to him. The chance for help. The chance for recovery. The chance for a life off the streets. He replied, "honey, I'm 58 years old, there ain't no hope for me!" He further explained how he's been on the streets for 30 years and it's the only life he's ever known. He said he knows he will die at there. He asked what he would do if he didn't live on the streets? We talked to James for well over an hour. The more we got into conversation with him, the more his walls began to come down. He admitted he was too scared to go to treatment. He had beat drug addiction and he knew the withdrawal symptoms were bad. He was scared of what he would go through in order to stop abusing alcohol. Amy assured him there are options now to help control the withdrawal symptoms, but he was still scared. This is all from a man who is blind in one eye, has been shot (according to him 11 times when he was in his 20's), has been in jail, and has lived on the streets for 30 years. Who knows all the other things Jesse, a.k.a. The Outlaw, Jesse James, has seen in his life? Yet the idea of change terrified him.
We went to the store and got him some water, chips, and some other items to help make his day a little easier. He informed us he would take them back to his "home" and share with his friends. He explained how they all look after each other on the streets. If anyone gets a little bit of food, they always share. I'm not going to lie, this made me a little jealous. How generous are we, as Christians? How often are we willing to share out of our lack? Many of us are quick to share out of our "extra" but rarely out of our lack. James and his friends get a simple principal we often miss. How much more could we share if we weren't so focused on always have the "best" of everything. Instead of the $5 coffee, how about the $1 one instead?
We left assuring James that this was not the last time he would see us. We will be back to check on him and to continue the offer of help. Will you PLEASE join us in agreeing for James' recovery? Amy told him how she had shared his story with HUNDREDS of people and there were that many people who are praying for him. You could tell by the look on his face that he did not believe her. We are standing in the gap for James. We know God created him for a purpose other than begging on the streets. Just as the blind beggar at the gate was told to pick up his mat and walk, we know James has to be willing to "pick up his mat" so he can walk! Pray with us for the strongholds of fear to be broken off of him!
"When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he already had been in that condition a long time, He said to him, Do you want to be made well? The sick man answered Him, Sir, I have no man to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up; but while I am coming, another steps down before me. Jesus said to him, Rise, take up your bed and walk. And immediately the man was made well, took up his bed, and walked." John 5:6-9
Please also join us in believing we will find somewhere willing to take both Tommy and Sheila for treatment. Pray in advance that once a place is found and the offer is made, they will both be willing to go for treatment.
Amy snapped this picture as we were laughing. James turned into me laughing. It may be the best hug I ever received.
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Amy is a friend of mine and I was meeting her for lunch uptown yesterday. She asked me if I would go with her in order to find James. Someone has offered to fly James to a treatment facility to help him beat his alcohol addiction. Of course I wanted to go with her! We decided to eat lunch before setting out on our mission. As we were eating, Amy received a text message from a friend saying he had just passed James and how he immediately recognized him from the video. This friend had no idea of Amy's plan to go find him! She asked the friend to go back to him and tell him that she was coming to talk to him.
We met up with the friend a short time later, but he had been unable to locate James. For the next three hours we all drove around the several block radius where James was last seen. As we began talking to other homeless people, it became evident that most every one knew James. We were told to check in several places. One lead came from the clerk at one of the gas stations where James frequents. He advised us of a building at the end of the street where many homeless gather. We ventured back there and a worker in the building told us of a path behind the building where we should look. The three of us walked back there in search of James. What we found was a mini campsite. It was obvious people "lived" there, but at this time nobody was home.
Another lead the worker in the building gave us was to check near the strip club. So we ventured towards the strip club. While on our way there we spoke with another homeless gentleman who pointed to an abandoned car wash across the street and told us it was where James "lived." We checked several other places before heading to the car wash. When we drove up there were two men in conversation. We introduced ourselves and they introduced themselves as Tommy and Tod (which is Dot spelled backwards as he explained to us). They were friends with James and informed us he had just left to go up the street to ask for money. We learned Tommy lived on the streets with his wife Sheila. Sheila soon joined us and we spent a while in conversation with them and praying with them. We did not share with them the reason we were looking for James. Within several minutes of our conversation Tommy shared that if he and his wife could enter an alcohol treatment center together, then they would go tomorrow if possible. Amy shared with them the work of her ministry and asked if she could work that out, would they seriously be willing to go. They both assured us they would. They let us know where their "home" is so we will know where to find them. I am believing God will work out a way for them to go to treatment together.
Sheila shared with me a little more of their story. They moved to Charlotte from the northeast because Tommy had been promised a job. When they got here, the job fell through. They had money at the time and a place to live, but their drug addiction quickly consumed the funds they had saved. They have been on the streets for about a year now. They each have children that are now grown. There is something that happens to you inside as you begin to have a real conversation with someone so "different" from you. You start to realize we are not all that different at all.
After talking with them we set out to find James. Sure enough, he was exactly where Tommy, Sheila, and Tod had told us he would be located. When we got out of the car, James was terrified. You could see the fear on his face. If you've ever approached a lost dog that wants help, but is afraid of your intentions, then you have seen the look in James' eyes. Amy approached him while the two of us stayed back a little. When she initially reminded him who she was, he said he did not remember. However, as we talked to him for a while he started talking about meeting her at the gas station. It slowly came back to him the conversation they had previously shared. We told him how we had been looking for him for hours and shared with him the places we had looked. When we told him about the place in the woods he got a bit angry and told us to NEVER go back there because there were dangerous people back there. I believe we were divinely protected as we searched for James because we never felt in any danger!
As they continued talking, my heart began breaking. Amy explained what was being offered to him. The chance for help. The chance for recovery. The chance for a life off the streets. He replied, "honey, I'm 58 years old, there ain't no hope for me!" He further explained how he's been on the streets for 30 years and it's the only life he's ever known. He said he knows he will die at there. He asked what he would do if he didn't live on the streets? We talked to James for well over an hour. The more we got into conversation with him, the more his walls began to come down. He admitted he was too scared to go to treatment. He had beat drug addiction and he knew the withdrawal symptoms were bad. He was scared of what he would go through in order to stop abusing alcohol. Amy assured him there are options now to help control the withdrawal symptoms, but he was still scared. This is all from a man who is blind in one eye, has been shot (according to him 11 times when he was in his 20's), has been in jail, and has lived on the streets for 30 years. Who knows all the other things Jesse, a.k.a. The Outlaw, Jesse James, has seen in his life? Yet the idea of change terrified him.
We went to the store and got him some water, chips, and some other items to help make his day a little easier. He informed us he would take them back to his "home" and share with his friends. He explained how they all look after each other on the streets. If anyone gets a little bit of food, they always share. I'm not going to lie, this made me a little jealous. How generous are we, as Christians? How often are we willing to share out of our lack? Many of us are quick to share out of our "extra" but rarely out of our lack. James and his friends get a simple principal we often miss. How much more could we share if we weren't so focused on always have the "best" of everything. Instead of the $5 coffee, how about the $1 one instead?
We left assuring James that this was not the last time he would see us. We will be back to check on him and to continue the offer of help. Will you PLEASE join us in agreeing for James' recovery? Amy told him how she had shared his story with HUNDREDS of people and there were that many people who are praying for him. You could tell by the look on his face that he did not believe her. We are standing in the gap for James. We know God created him for a purpose other than begging on the streets. Just as the blind beggar at the gate was told to pick up his mat and walk, we know James has to be willing to "pick up his mat" so he can walk! Pray with us for the strongholds of fear to be broken off of him!
"When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he already had been in that condition a long time, He said to him, Do you want to be made well? The sick man answered Him, Sir, I have no man to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up; but while I am coming, another steps down before me. Jesus said to him, Rise, take up your bed and walk. And immediately the man was made well, took up his bed, and walked." John 5:6-9
Please also join us in believing we will find somewhere willing to take both Tommy and Sheila for treatment. Pray in advance that once a place is found and the offer is made, they will both be willing to go for treatment.
Amy snapped this picture as we were laughing. James turned into me laughing. It may be the best hug I ever received.
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Valued
Have you ever felt worthless? I know this may seem like a harsh question, but one to seriously ask yourself. Have you ever wondered why you are alive and what your purpose is here on earth? Maybe it's not so much that you feel worthless, but more you feel forgotten by God. Have you had visions for your life that have yet to come to fruition? Are there circumstances in your life that, to be honest, make you angry at God? I have some areas that at time I feel I have to "remind" God of my situation. Maybe I'm the only one who has these moments. When I'm wronged or judged unfairly I say "God, did you SEE that?" As if He didn't. When there is a material need I ask Him "God, you see the bank account, RIGHT?" When things don't work out the way I thought they would, I tend to turn into a pouting two year old. There, I admitted it. Sometimes I find this thing called spiritual "maturity" goes right out the window. I'm sure it's only me that feels this way. Surely nobody else ever has.
And just when I start to feel this way, I come across this verse:
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows." Luke 12:6-7
Apparently I'm not so special in my feelings. If such a verse exists in scripture, then it must be because at least ONE other person in the course of history has felt this same way. I love the phrase "fear not" that appears here. How quick we are to allow fear to creep into our minds and affect our lives. I would dare to say many, if not most, of our decisions (or indecisions) in life stem from our fears. We fear what people will say. We fear what people will think. We fear failure. We fear stepping out because of the judgment that could come from others. What I've found in my experience is the people who care about me will always ask me for clarification on things they see happening in my life. True friendship and love comes without judgment.
Every life on this planet is worth more than five sparrows. Not just ONE sparrow, but five. And even more. We need to remember this not only when thinking of ourselves, but also when thinking of others. The drug dealer, the prostitute, the drug addict, the homeless person on the corner are ALL worth so much more than the sparrows! God values them too! What stops you from showing them love? Are we back to fear again?
My prayer for each of you today is to know how truly valued you are by God. It's only once we begin to appreciate our own value that we can extend that love, grace,and mercy to others. You see, coming to value yourself is only the first step to experience God's love. We feel it most when we offer it to others.
And just when I start to feel this way, I come across this verse:
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows." Luke 12:6-7
Apparently I'm not so special in my feelings. If such a verse exists in scripture, then it must be because at least ONE other person in the course of history has felt this same way. I love the phrase "fear not" that appears here. How quick we are to allow fear to creep into our minds and affect our lives. I would dare to say many, if not most, of our decisions (or indecisions) in life stem from our fears. We fear what people will say. We fear what people will think. We fear failure. We fear stepping out because of the judgment that could come from others. What I've found in my experience is the people who care about me will always ask me for clarification on things they see happening in my life. True friendship and love comes without judgment.
Every life on this planet is worth more than five sparrows. Not just ONE sparrow, but five. And even more. We need to remember this not only when thinking of ourselves, but also when thinking of others. The drug dealer, the prostitute, the drug addict, the homeless person on the corner are ALL worth so much more than the sparrows! God values them too! What stops you from showing them love? Are we back to fear again?
My prayer for each of you today is to know how truly valued you are by God. It's only once we begin to appreciate our own value that we can extend that love, grace,and mercy to others. You see, coming to value yourself is only the first step to experience God's love. We feel it most when we offer it to others.
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