I want to write today specifically to those of you who are single. First, I want to remind you there is beauty in your singleness and you can be 100% complete in Jesus without a man in your life. Our society makes every attempt to convince us there is something wrong with being single. Yet there are scriptures that honor being single.
"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Your time of singleness is a blessing from God because it allows you to seek Him as your source, provider, and husband. When there is no earthly man in our lives, we learn to rely on the Holy Spirit to lead us. Our singleness should be a time to seek His face and not a time to sit in pity over being alone. It is by drawing close to God in our singleness that He reveals to us more of who He is, which is who we should look for in a husband. If we are not familiar with the characteristics of God, then how can we recognize them in a husband?
I see so many women in unhealthy and ungodly relationships simply because they do not want to be alone. They compromise what they value in order to "keep" a man. Ladies, if you have to compromise yourself for a man, then he is probably not the man for you. If you are spending all your time with a man who is not from God, you are limiting God from bringing you the one He has chosen for you. I am saying all these things because I have been there. I have compromised my values because I thought that would move me closer to obtaining the kind of relationship I wanted. It's a lie. It does not work that way! The Godly role of a husband is to lead you deeper in your relationship with Christ, not lead you into sin. Don't compromise your purity in order to attract a man. A godly man will be attracted to your relationship with Jesus and not just your cleavage.
If you desire a godly husband, be willing to wait for him. I truly believe when God brings him along, you will know rather quickly if you use Godly standards as your measuring stick. Ladies, don't chase him! Men are designed to pursue and when he finds you, he will give chase. The one for you WILL realize your value and not be willing to let anything happen to let you get away. He will treat you with respect and honor. If he says he will call you, he will. He will encourage you. He will protect and provide for you.
Ladies, if you are in a relationship that you know is not from God, then you need to end it. It may seem difficult and scary, but it will be worth the pain! Allow yourself time to heal and examine why you compromised. Ask God what His heart is for you and be willing to follow His lead. It is only through obedience that He can pour out His blessing on you and a relationship.
"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Your time of singleness is a blessing from God because it allows you to seek Him as your source, provider, and husband. When there is no earthly man in our lives, we learn to rely on the Holy Spirit to lead us. Our singleness should be a time to seek His face and not a time to sit in pity over being alone. It is by drawing close to God in our singleness that He reveals to us more of who He is, which is who we should look for in a husband. If we are not familiar with the characteristics of God, then how can we recognize them in a husband?
I see so many women in unhealthy and ungodly relationships simply because they do not want to be alone. They compromise what they value in order to "keep" a man. Ladies, if you have to compromise yourself for a man, then he is probably not the man for you. If you are spending all your time with a man who is not from God, you are limiting God from bringing you the one He has chosen for you. I am saying all these things because I have been there. I have compromised my values because I thought that would move me closer to obtaining the kind of relationship I wanted. It's a lie. It does not work that way! The Godly role of a husband is to lead you deeper in your relationship with Christ, not lead you into sin. Don't compromise your purity in order to attract a man. A godly man will be attracted to your relationship with Jesus and not just your cleavage.
If you desire a godly husband, be willing to wait for him. I truly believe when God brings him along, you will know rather quickly if you use Godly standards as your measuring stick. Ladies, don't chase him! Men are designed to pursue and when he finds you, he will give chase. The one for you WILL realize your value and not be willing to let anything happen to let you get away. He will treat you with respect and honor. If he says he will call you, he will. He will encourage you. He will protect and provide for you.
Ladies, if you are in a relationship that you know is not from God, then you need to end it. It may seem difficult and scary, but it will be worth the pain! Allow yourself time to heal and examine why you compromised. Ask God what His heart is for you and be willing to follow His lead. It is only through obedience that He can pour out His blessing on you and a relationship.
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