Psalms 128

Today I am reading chapter 128 of Psalms and appropriately it is a verse about family. Here is the chapter in its entirety:

"All you who fear God, how blessed you are! how happily you walk on his smooth straight road! You worked hard and deserve all you've got coming. Enjoy the blessing! Revel in the goodness! Your wife will bear children as a vine bears grapes, your household lush as a vineyard, The children around your table as fresh and promising as young olive shoots. Stand in awe of God's Yes. Oh, how he blesses the one who fears God! Enjoy the good life in Jerusalem every day of your life.  And enjoy your grandchildren. Peace to Israel!" (MSG)

I read this verse and immediately think of the power of a husband and father. The verse references "your wife" so we know this scripture is directed to men who are married and have children. It can also be taken to heart by men who are single, but desire a wife and children in their future. Notice how all the blessings in this scripture are proceeded by ONE thing...a man who fears God. This translates into how a man leads his household. I had a conversation last night with a very close male friend of mine and he made a statement I found interesting. In referencing divorce, he stated no matter how it may appear from the outside, he believes 99% of all divorces are the mans fault. His explanation of this is that most men do not know how to lead their families or they take the responsibility lightly. If a divorce occurs because of a woman's behavior outside the home, it can usually be traced back to a man who is not leading in the home. This is very powerful stuff! Remember....it was a male who made this statement, so it's not me trying to "male-bash" or anything like that. 

Relate this back to the scripture we see here in Psalms, and I do not think he is missing the mark at all in his conclusion. If the head of the house is operating in a healthy fear and respect for God, he will lead his household in the same way. His home will be lush, meaning fruitful! It will be well taken care of and producing healthy fruit in the form of his offspring. The man is blessed who fears God and leads his family on the same path. If there is no fear or respect for God by the leader of the home, then children with little respect for authority are the result. I have seen it many times in my personal experience. Even having a father in the home can be worse than an absent father if his presence is not representative of the love of our Heavenly Father. Children will talk disrespectfully to their mother because they are not show how to respect her by their father. It is hard for a mother to command respect in the home if the father is always disrespecting her or not leading her in the way God commands.

With all this said, I would like to address any women reading this who are single. If you begin dating a man and can see he is not a leader, then you may want to reconsider the relationship. Having been single myself for a long time, I know how difficult this can be and the loneliness you may feel. However, how much better to be single and in peace than in a relationship or possibly marriage in which the man is unable to lead in the way God instructs?

Psalms 122

If you attend church, why do you go there? What is it that drives you to get out of a warm bed on Sunday mornings or give up your Saturday evenings to attend your house of worship? When you are there, is it just another part of you routine in life? Is it kind of like doing the laundry or washing dishes? There have been times in my life when I attended church out of a perceived obligation or feeling that going to church is simply something you should do every week. I am guessing many people have this same feeling judging by the jump in church attendance on Christmas and Easter. Somewhere inside most of us, there is a yearning to be within the house of God, even if only twice a year. I am asking these questions because chapter 122 of Psalms is all about the house of God.

"I was glad when they said to me, “Let us go into the house of the Lord. The Joy of Going to the House of the Lord Our feet have been standing Within your gates, O Jerusalem! Jerusalem is built As a city that is compact together, Where the tribes go up, The tribes of the Lord, To the Testimony of Israel, To give thanks to the name of the Lord.  For thrones are set there for judgment, The thrones of the house of David. Pray for the peace of Jerusalem: “May they prosper who love you.  Peace be within your walls, Prosperity within your palaces.”  For the sake of my brethren and companions, I will now say, “Peace be within you.” Because of the house of the Lord our God I will seek your good."


Notice the Psalmists says he was GLAD when asked to go to the House of the Lord! Going to church should never be something routine or done begrudgingly. There is peace there! If there is not peace there, then something is being done wrong. I'm going to just call it out like it is. If the people within the church congregation are causing strife or are causing others to not want to be there, then these are all issues that need to be addressed! One of the main focuses of the church I attend is on building healthy relationships. If there is someone gossiping or causing division within the body, it is addressed. If there is offense, we are encouraged to go to the offender and talk about what happened so as not to allow the offense to grow and fester. Too many times within the body of Christ we allow the enemy to destroy a place designed to be a house of safety and refuge. If we attend church only to talk about what Sally so-and-so did with Billy-whats-his-face then we seriously need to check ourselves and our heart.

At the idea of being in the house of God, our eyes should pop open early on Sunday because we are so eager to spend time with other believers! Why do we arrive at work early, yet get to church just after the offering plate is passed? As for me, I can't wait to be at church on Sunday! Actually, most Sundays I am there for most of the day (on the ones I serve). I may seem weird, but I LIKE to be there that much! I love seeing people coming into Gods house during all three services. I love watching as families come in and as the weeks, months, and years pass being able to witness the growth and transformation in their lives. Sometimes this happens not even through direct conversation, but by watching their eyes and their expressions! You can tell when someone is broken and lonely and also tell when later, as God has worked on their heart and they have found PEACE within the body of Christ, you see a light there you have never seen before!

My prayer for each of you today is for a fresh EXCITEMENT to come into your lives! An excitement so that you want to be in God's house more. I pray going to church does not feel like an obligation, but an HONOR! If you have a church home, and someone invites you to attend a Sunday evening service, I pray you become so hungry that you jump at the opportunity to go to church again! I pray for a hunger inside of you to simply have MORE of God! There is something amazing that happens when the people of God come to church with an EXPECTATION of meeting Him there!